Emotional Healing
aka Spring Cleaning
When our emotional health is in a bad state, so is our level of self-esteem. We have to slow down and deal with what is troubling us, so that we can enjoy the simple joy of being happy and at peace with ourselves.” Jess C. Scott
Our Suppressed (Hidden) Emotions
Emotional healing involves becoming aware of hidden emotions, feeling our emotional truth then releasing energy that is no longer needed, and moving on with life.
Whether we recognize it or not, our emotional state affects everything we do. It is well worth taking the time learning about emotions and how they affect us.
Our body has emotional responses to most everything. Our body tells us how its feeling about life and what's going on through waves of emotional energy that rise and fall.
Each time there is an emotional response, a wave of emotional energy is created.
There is a common misunderstanding that if we disconnect from our emotions, then emotions will not affect us. Nothing could be further from the truth.
Emotions that are pushed down, denied and repressed do not go away!
Emotions that get pushed down are stored in your energy system. This emotional energy is still with you, it has not gone anywhere, it is just temporarily hidden. Hidden emotional issues create all kinds of problems.
Hidden (negative) emotions create a heavy weight on our systems. You've probably heard the expression, "...someone has a lot of baggage". This literally refers to the (negative) emotional load a person is carrying.
It is a tremendous burden to go through life carrying the heavy weight of emotional baggage.
Emotional issues can lead to addictions, health issues, weight problems, depression and unhealthy relationship patterns.
If you speak to anybody with addictions or substance abuse you will find suppressed emotions.
Addictions
When we push our emotions down, they don't go away...they stay in our systems waiting to be expressed in some way.
In order to keep pushing down what we feel, we often turn to numbing ourselves through some kind of addiction.
We might numb ourselves with food, alcohol, sex, drugs, work, religion, etc.
Potentially anything in the universe can be mis-used in order to avoid feeling our truth.
Childhood Trauma and Abuse
Repressed memories or even the memories we keep from childhood often have profound effects on us as adults.
one conversation one memory stays with us and affects everything we do.
Releasing this 'negative' energy will transform our thinking over night.
Weight Problems
We also numb ourselves with cravings for food. Extreme foods that are fatty, very sweet or very salty are especially tempting as ways to pleasure and distract ourselves.
these foods produce bio chemical reactions in our bodies releasing endorphins that temporarily make us feel good.
When we satisfy intense cravings for junk fast foods, it numbs us for a while. But when the emotions begin to surface again, we need to eat again.
This repeating behavior pattern leads to weight gain, other health issues and eventually obesity and even diabetes.
Emotional Constipation leads to Health Problems
When we don't allow ourselves to feel certain emotions, the emotional energy stays stuck in our systems.
Stored emotional energy stagnates, creating build up and emotional toxicity. It is the emotional equivalent of constipation.
For your gastro-intestinal system to function properly, it needs to have regular movements.
Otherwise, constipation leads to all kinds of problems, like discomfort, headaches, irritability and eventually, a seriously toxic system.
Similarly, our emotional system needs to have regular movements and releases, or it will slowly back up and toxify.
Hence our need to let off steam in some manner also releases the built up (negative) emotions.
As emotional constipation blocks the flow of life-force energies in our system, it can lead to all kinds of problems from low energy
and mild depression, to serious conditions and diseases like cancer.
Unhealthy Relationship Patterns
In order to deny certain emotions, you literally have to disconnect from parts of yourself. When you disconnect from your emotional
truth (centre), you also disconnect from your internal (moral and ethical) compass. Internally disconnected, you make choices that
are not healthy for you.
For example, you may form relationships with unsuitable people. Alternatively the people may be okay but you form unhealthy ways of relating to them.
As you try to form new relationships in your present life, these built up hidden emotions re-appear as roadblocks to current and
future happiness. Emotions stored within then cloud your vision of others as old fears, old anger, and old sadness resurface to
haunt you. Then you try to play out old emotions on someone new--who is not actually the root cause of your emotional issues.
When we don't take responsibility for healing our emotional baggage, we expect too much of our relationships.
We expect others to be more than loving and supportive. Not taking responsibility for healing our own baggage, we demand our
relationships become therapy to heal our past.
One of the greatest gifts we can give our relationships is to face and heal our own emotions.
One of the most powerful gifts we can give ourselves is to find the courage to feel and heal.
Do you struggle to contain your feelings? and are you getting angry and upset over the little things when you wouldn't normally let these effect you.
Are you overwhelmed emotionally? and finding yourself tearing up unexpectedly during the day and becoming overly emotional.
Find it difficult to sleep at night? Or at all? Lying there tired but unable to sleep normally as the time slowly passes until dawn.
When do you have time for yourself? We are all surrounded by the challenges of daily life and people. Making time for ourselves is hard some days.
So every now and then you just have to sit down and take out the (emotional) trash by Spring Cleaning internally. Release the
emotions, drain away the strains and stresses that build up. Not just a simple cleansing but a full on Spring Clean.
This is easier said than done but is essential if we are going to recharge our batteries.
How can we relax and remove from our thoughts what we feel? We are not designed to do that. Our hearts are governed by our
emotions and feelings.
It’s not only the holistic practitioners that recognize the importance of a healthy mind. Conventional western medicine affirms that
health and disease are not only related to the chemical condition of the cells, but also a person’s state of mind.
Research has shown that the cells that carry emotions to the brain are also present in the immune system and impact the nervous
and endocrine system. Therefore, what we think and feel has a profound impact on our health. This is why a positive mental
attitude is especially important.
“People who seek psychotherapy for psychological, behavioral or relationship problems tend to experience a wide range of bodily complaints...The body can express emotional issues a person may have difficulty processing consciously...I believe that the vast majority of people don't recognize what their bodies are really telling them. The way I see it, our emotions are music and our bodies are instruments that play the discordant tunes. But if we don't know how to read music, we just think the instrument is defective.” Charlette Mikulka
We are purposely built so we can feel and act accordingly.
“It isn't stress that makes us fall - it's how we respond to stressful events.” Wayde Goodall
But what if we are slaves to our emotions? What if our responses are out of sync with our reality? What then?
"We are dangerous when we are not conscious of our responsibility for how we behave, think, and feel." —Marshall B. Rosenberg
Simple steps are needed to reduce and finally to remove emotional trash that is holding us back from moving forward with our lives.
Take a step back when you want to spring forward.
Here are some simple steps to emotional spring cleaning (in no particular order)
Cleansing - Take a sea salt or long hot soak in the Tub. Works wonders!
Clear your mind - Try some meditation.
Go for a quiet walk – peace and quiet is very calming and relaxing.
YOGA - will help to reduce and control your emotions.
Make a list of the concerns or issues you are experiencing trouble with.
Releasing – allow yourself to cry and release the emotions.
Fresh Start – Create a new theme or approach to each day.
Diet and Exercise - Start a new diet and exercise regime. Its incredibly cathartic to work off your stress.
Do one thing at a time. Don't let it all get to you at once.
SLEEP. Rest and relaxation is incredibly important.
Ask for help. You will be amazed at how much help is there for you.
Clean House. Literally! Remove old photos or keepsakes that keep you in the past and allow your future to be in the present.
Responsibility - take responsibility for the past don't cast blame on others.
Break Free - Avoid repeating the same mistakes and patterns of behavior.
Be Ruthless - Prioritize and purge your schedules and routines.
Cleanse your spirit and allow positive emotions to enter your heart.
We have a 3 step process that can help.
Our Spiritual Cleansing process helps as a quick fix to remove/reduce emotional problems
A session with us will help identify and help you to remove emotional blocks within yourself.
Develop a long term strategy to clear blocks regularly.
Ask us for a Spiritual Spring Cleaning Session today.
This article takes quotes from a variety of informed sources that we believe help inform about emotional self improvement.
