The One For You
This is a very interesting checklist of good pointers towards a lifelong relationship.
If your relationship fits a lot of these then you can focus upon the areas that don't work and improve them. one at a time!
Not everyone is perfect but understanding that we can adjust things a little more each day/week is a great feeling to have.
1. You don't think about your ex
You cut ties with any exes, whether intentional or not. You are confident that you no longer need them in your life.
2. You don't have to talk
There's no such thing as an awkward pause with him. You love to talk, but you can also enjoy the silence.
3. He's the only one who makes you feel sane
He quiets your neuroses. Everyone's got a little bit of crazy in them, but he makes you feel incredibly normal. And he always knows how to make you feel better when you're upset.
4. You can be yourself
He's seen you at your best and your worst, and doesn't think any differently of you because of it. You're no longer afraid to go without makeup or an 'outfit' in his presence. He loves you for YOU.
5. There's no green-eyed monster in your relationship
He's not jealous. He trusts you. He doesn't get upset when he sees another man looking your way or trying to get your attention. He knows you're his, and doesn't question it.
6. You don't snoop
"Snooping" is not a word in your vocabulary. You trust him completely and feel no need to go through his wallet or inbox while he isn't looking.
7. He puts you first
He does something for you that he wouldn't do otherwise, only because it's for you. Whether it's accompanying you to an exercise class he doesn't particular care for or a movie he could care less about seeing, he does it anyway to make you happy.
8. He's there when you need him
Your man always shows up when you need him most. No asking necessary. When you're visiting a family member in the hospital, he lets you know that he's on his way before you even ask him to come.
9. He knows how to weather a storm
He fights fair, and he focuses on the solution instead of the problem. Sure, you may have done something to piss him off (or vice versa). But when he cares more about smoothing things out than he does about making his point, he's a keeper.
10. He understands the importance of family
He goes with you to visit your Nan, and he does it with a smile.
11. There aren't enough words...
You literally can't say "I love you" enough. And no matter how times you times you do say it, it'll never be enough. Because you love him THAT much.
12. He gets what's important to you
The things you felt you had to discuss or bring up in former relationships are things that you just assume will happen with him. When you tell him you're planning to run a marathon in another city, he doesn't ask if he should come with you. He tells you he'll be waiting at the finish line.
13. He's not what you expected
Physically and emotionally, he's not quite who you pictured yourself ending up with. And you really don't care.
14. You've never laughed harder
You can be your truest, silliest self around him, and you've never enjoyed laughing with anyone else the way you do with him.
15. He's your number one fan
He regularly tells you how talented, beautiful, smart, and strong he thinks you are. And he always encourages you when you need a push.
16. You've never felt better
Even when the chips are down, you feel like you are the best version of yourself. Simply being around him makes you a better, happier person.
17. No one knows you like he does
You can - and do - tell him everything. You trust him wholly and want him to know the truest version of yourself.
18. You look up to him
You believe he is a genuinely awesome person, and in turn, he inspires you to be better.
19. He makes a bad day better
If you've had the worst day ever but still look forward to going home and seeing him, he's it.
20. You've never felt like this before!
This relationship feels different from all of the others. It might be different in a way that you can't quite pinpoint, and that's okay. Whatever this feeling is, you hope you'll feel it for the rest of your life.